Memorize Romans 12:10 and Philippians 2:3,4. (Review the meanings of these verses, especially any hard words.)
Read Romans 15:1-7.
V. 1 -- "We are to help those weaker than ourselves, bear with those who are not as spiritually mature as we may be, and not please ourselves (care for their needs first, put their comforts above our own)."
V. 2 -- "We do this with the purpose of building up the other person--helping him to grow in Christ, or perhaps so that he will want to know Christ. Edification means building up."
V. 3 -- "Jesus is our example of deference. He did not please Himself. Instead, He pleased His Father first. And we can see in the gospels that He frequently also put other people before His own needs."
V. 5 -- "As God is patient and consoling (comforting), and as He has given us this example in Jesus, He wants us to be likeminded (thinking the same as He does) and treat others with patience and comfort."
V. 6 -- "If we are of the same mind as God, and are all together wishing to be as He is, this will bring unity to the Body of Christ and glorify God. By being deferent, you will be doing your part toward unity."
V. 7 -- "In what condition were we, when Christ received us?" (We were sinners, needing to be cleansed.) "How did Jesus receive us?" (He welcomed us and loved us unconditionally.) "This is how we are to treat our brothers and sisters in Christ; we are to accept them with all their faults, and love them unconditionally." (You may need to explain what doing something unconditionally means.)
"Tell me what you have learned so far about deference."
"How do you plan to apply this to your life?"
"Are you being deferent toward your parents?"
"Are you trying to be deferent in your dealings with other children?"
Parents should share any experiences they have had with being deferent, not being deferent, or experiences of others being/not being deferent toward them.
Pray for God's grace to honor others and defer to their wishes.